How to Rebuild Trust After You’ve Cheated
This is the question for everyone who cheated by his/her loved ones. The truth is everybody makes mistakes, yet the mistake of infidelity can cause cracks in the foundation of even the most happy and successful of relationships. If you cheat on your significant other but have hopes of repairing the broken foundation you need to be prepared to be very patient.
Trust is not something that is easy to achieve and is not going to be rewarded to you overnight with a simple “I’m sorry, and it won’t happen again.” If you hope to regain the trust of your loved one after you have cheated, you need to begin by showing your strong desire to be with them and put in the necessary amount of hard work that is needed to prove yourself worthy of their trust again.
The first step you need to take is being as honest about the situation as possible. Your significant other is more than likely going to have a lot of questions for you and you simply need to be ready to answer them as honestly as you possibly can. This is going to be your first opportunity after the situation to show that you can still be honest. It may be hard to share the details of your infidelity but this is a crucial aspect of the healing process for both of you.
Through the process of earning back your trust, you need to be understanding of your significant other. Do not be surprised when they become a little suspicious when you claim to be going out with your friends or working late. After what they have been through they are bound to have doubts, so provide them with as much information about your whereabouts as possible.
Open the door to allow them to visit you at work if that is acceptable. If you are out with your friends, take the time to call them and ensure them that you are exactly where you said you were going to be and with the people you said you were going to be with. Also, if they call you, make the effort to answer it. Your number one job through this process is going to be soothing any doubts, suspicions and concerns your partner may have.
Another important thing you will need to do is remove the person that you cheated with from your life completely – delete their number and avoid them at all costs.
It is going to be very hard for your partner to trust you if that person is still around. If they are a co-worker or someone that you can’t avoid, do the best to talk this over with your significant other and assure them that nothing will ever happen again.
Attempting to regain your trust after you cheated is not going to be easy. You can expect a few months full of tears and frustration. This is a process that is going to take time for both of you. The best thing you can do is take this as an opportunity to show your significant other how much they really mean to you and to stress your desire to earn their trust once again.
ARTICLE CONTRIBUTED BY Travis and Ben
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